I once had an enormous amount of rules for myself. And others.
I was always estimating whether, what I felt and wanted to do, was right or wrong. I had a hard time making decisions. Everything from the food I wanted to eat, to the country I would live in.
It meant a lot to me that others thought what I was doing was correct. And I indeed believed in the existence of only one real and true way to do things.
Because I constantly questioned my own feelings and motives, I did the same with other people. I wanted to correct them, and tell them to behave so called properly, if they moved outside my set of rules.
Later on, when I realized that we all have (and create) our individual truth, I was able to loosen the rule-focused grip.
It has taken some years to get back in touch with my inner compass. But I have now become quite good at listening, and go with what feels nourishing to me.
In other words, I let myself be guide by the message on my left foot. Kærlighed is a Danish word that means Love in English.
When Miss Correct comes up, I kiss her and spend a little time feeling the deeper layers of my emotions.
There is always a clear message to get, when we dare to feel the emotions underneath it all.
Personally, I did not know that life could be so free and fun. But how I enjoy having discovered it.
