A year and a half ago I read the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. And from the very first moment I was captured by the book and the concept Gay calls ‘Upper Limit’.
Though, some days later I got a bit angry at the book. I began thinking; “Why would I be so stupid that I would create limits for how much happiness and pleasure I could enjoy?”. It seemed so weird and I had a hard time grasping it.
Even though I started to play with and integrate the idea, I still doubted it from time to time. Sometimes I would even get mad at myself for being so stupid that I created these Upper Limits. And mad at Gay for having written the book.
The first time I got an inner feeling and understanding of the concept, was when I started to receive coaching from Gay Hendricks himself. He taught me the depths of the concepts, and helped me feel my own upper limits. By now it was much easier to grasp, and I started to realize how I often time ruined my own pleasure and freedom. I now knew that the concepts was true, at least to me.
Whenever I rose the bar for how much enjoyment and pleasure I allowed into my experience, I would usually hear a voice inside of me saying something like: ”Calm down, it is Tuesday night and your are going to work tomorrow morning. This is not okay. You should much rather blah blah blah….”
It was sad to realize how I limited my own enjoyment. But with the realization, I also got the power to change it.
I consciously began treating myself better and allowing more luxury into my everyday life. New clothes, make-up artists, flowers, delicious food, breaks and a lot of play-time. My husband and I started going to the most beautiful and expensive restaurants I could find. It was lovely and at the same time I felt sadness coming up. I couldn’t enjoy it freely, and knew I had some healing-work to do.
By breathing and consciously healing the sadness, I was able to open my body-cells and mind for more enjoyment and pleasure. I am still increasing but today I am able to enjoy a lot without feeling guilt or sadness. It has become easier, and I love how my breathing support me in that process.
The Leap is up to us!
Watch this beautiful video-talk with Gay Hendricks and learn more about The Big Leap.
